Hi Pat, Unless your FB page is public, I don't see why not. As I've said, I've tried to find out more about her, but have not been able to.

We read this poem for my girlfriend, Marylyn, @ her service on the 1 year anniversary of her death. She was the the most beautiful person i have ever known or seen. Gone from this world @ only 39 years old. I miss the comfort of her love.

Merrit Malloy made a lasting impression on me when I first found her poetry in a local book store. Her work has stayed with me all these years and she has created such a lasting impression in my life. Merritt gives a voice to our own deepest unspoken feelings, in a way that I have not experienced before or after with any other author. I hope she knows how gifted and unforgettable she is. And if she should happen to read this - I'm sending a big hug her way.

I would like to help set "When I Die" to music. The poem has been adapted for use in a Jewish memorial service. It is that version I would like to use.
Would this be ok?
Of course, there would be an attribution....
Thanks,
Allen

To clarify for Ali ... this poem is Merritt Malloy ... not surprising the mistake in reference to Kaddish ... when one “borrows” another’s work, it is customary in the honorable world to give credit to the author ... the Kaddish Yatom should clarify honestly.

“The ... poem called “Epitaph” by Merrit Malloy — one of numerous poems (typically, like this one, by non-Jews) which recent editions of the Reform Jewish prayer book add as options/meditations before or after the various bits of traditional liturgy that they still include. (You may have noticed the header, in your photo, identifying this as a meditation before Kaddish: not the prayer itself.)
The Kaddish, in its various forms (including, but not limited to, the Mourner’s Kaddish) is not limited to mourning, but is used throughout Jewish temple/synagogue service (including those services where a bar/bat mitzvah or other life event celebration is part of the proceedings). Neither the Mourner’s Kaddish itself, nor any of the other forms, actually makes any reference to death — partly because its origins weren’t as a mourning prayer. (Structurally, in Jewish services, one of its main functions is as a closure to various sections and subsections of the prayer “script.”)” from http://centralillinoiscelebrant.com/blog/2015/03/give-whats-left-of-me-away-a-jewish-meditation/

Someone compared this to the Kaddish Yatom and that is patently ridiculous. The Kaddish Yatom is a responsive prayer reading where the congregation responds to the reader and is NOTHING like this poem.
"Reader:
Let God's name be made great and holy in the world that was created as God willed. May God complete the holy realm in your own lifetime, in your days, and in the days of all the house of Israel, quickly and soon. And say: Amen.
Congregation:
May God's great name be blessed, forever and as long as worlds endure.
Reader:
May it be blessed, and praised, and glorified, and held in honor, viewed with awe, embellished, and revered; and may the blessed name of holiness be hailed, though it be higher by far than all the blessings, songs, praises, and consolations that we utter in this world. And say:
Congregation:
Amen.
May Heaven grant a universal peace, and life for us, and for all Israel. And say:
Congregation:
Amen.
May the One who creates harmony above, make peace for us and for all Israel, and for all who dwell on earth. And say:
Congregation:
Amen.

It made me cry. I heard it on the NCS series on the CBS Network last week - I would like to use it with permission, of course. I will research her history

How can I get permission to publish this poem for my eulogy?